Finding Yourself Outside of Your Comfort Zone By Solo Travel
Here is the lowdown backdrop in one paragraph. I was 39 years old. I had a girlfriend who left me. It wasn’t one of those breakups where you could just pinpoint what went wrong. So, for awhile I drank a little too much and just didn’t seem to have any direction. I looked to the bottle for comfort, be we all know how that story goes. Why did she leave? Although I never got a clear answer, she did mention that my “anxiety” consumed me and I needed to break free of what has inhibited me. After a couple of months of contemplating what the hell that even meant, I decided that I should take her words to heart and break out of my “comfort zone”.. Just traveling to a ball game for the weekend wasn’t going to cut it.. I had to do some soul searching, solo travel.. No friends, no family, no aquaintances of any kind. What I learned is that finding myself THROUGH solo travel really saved and changed my life.
Comfort Zone Lies
It’s safe.. It’s comfortable.. It’s secure.. Everyone has a different definition as to where their comfort zone is and where their boundaries lie. For me, I dealt (and deal) with a lot of social anxiety.. Before I speak I’m always concerned about what people think before I even say it.. So, I have 10 conversations going on in my mind and I end up not saying a word. It was wrecking my life.. Doctors prescribed me antidepressants and benzodiazepines (xanax, valium, ativan, etc…).. I was just numbing my insecurities and was not living the life that God intended me to live. Your “comfort zone” is nice as long as you don’t live your entire life there. Your comfort zone should be a pleasant retreat after you have challenged yourself a little bit.. That’s my opinion at least.
Finding Yourself Outside Of Your Comfort Zone
What does “finding yourself” even mean? I think it probably means something different to each individual. I raised a great kid, and was living an acceptable middle class life to most of societies standards. I wasn’t happy though.. I was lost. My soul wasn’t anywhere to be found. I nodded to please people and I didn’t listen to my heart. Remember, I was on doctor prescribed meds to numb these feelings. Geesh… Finding yourself outside of your comfort zone means taking a leap! Not just hopping over a puddle. It means that you put all your fears, anxieties, concerns and face them all. Solo travel will cover them all and more. Is there a culture that has always intrigued you? If yes, then that is the place you should go!
If you truly want to find yourself, I recommend going on your journey alone. Solo travel means that you are going to go through a lot. You won’t be able to rely on anyone. At times you will be lonely. Your not going to be sure how you will make it, but be rest assured, somehow you will. You will be 1000’s of miles away from home. It’s just you! Nobody to save you from any situation that arises! Many times it will just be you, alone with your thoughts. THAT is the time that you begin to find yourself. It’s like a spiritual awakening that is truly life changing. I truly believe, it’s through solo travel that I finally began to like myself..
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